August 2010
3 posts
Pain, Pain…Go Away. →
I didn’t grieve. I spent this past year avoiding sadness…attending to stuff and people instead. I wrote a bunch…formed new friendships…lost others…found my heart and lost it again. I thought I…
I miss her… →
Please indulge me for a little while. So much of what I write and share is self-indulgent BS that ends with some sort of lesson. I don’t think this will be one of them. I can’t put it any simpler…
Past Thoughts About a Future Happening Now →
This is all happening at once isn’t it? This life we have here on earth isn’t unfolding…it’s all happening in a single moment.
I’ll try to explain what I mean but may not pull it off. I was looking…
March 2010
1 post
Guilty Pleasures… →
I didn’t learn anything today so I’m just writing whatever pops in my little head. Actually that’s not true. I think I felt lucky today. I love that feeling…though oftentimes it quickly turns into…
February 2010
4 posts
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I went clothes shopping yesterday. It’s the first time I’ve gone shopping for myself in a long, long time. Laura used to buy everything for me. I was too cheap to get stuff for myself…unless you…
Lost and Found… →
[I was looking at some files on our old computer and found something I wrote about 2 years ago. It reminded me why I started Thirty Seconds in the first place. So…if you’ve ever…
I Have Some Questions for You… →
We have one life, you and I. One crazy, short parcel of time to live a life we are fortunate enough to have. If I was one of those inspirational speaker guys I would say something like, “You need to…
Brave? Really? →
I guess I’m feeling cancer-ish lately because I’ve been connecting with folks who are still immersed in that world. I originally posted this on April 25th, 2009. (I remember wondering if it was too…
January 2010
1 post
Over=Start Palindrome →
The video you are about to see is called a “palindrome.” From what I understand it is something that reads the same both forwards and backwards…but with a different meaning in either direction. In…
December 2009
4 posts
A Bunch of Things I Think I Know. →
I’ve been lax on the blogging thing lately because the transition to single guy with kids is more complex than I thought it would be. That’s life, right?
Still…I’m coming to see that the most…
Clarity From an Interview… →
These are some excerpts from an interview I gave to Arie Rich of KMP Interviews. I was happy to do it…felt honored to be asked…and it answers some of the questions I get from people about Thirty…
Just a Note… →
[By now regular readers know that I write random stuff in notebooks, bits of paper…sometimes click it into my Blackberry. I found this crumpled up in the bottom of my fashionable European…
Somedays Your Kids Make You Proud… →
What a day. Emotions everywhere…mostly saddish. I got an email from the Milwaukee Affiliate of Susan G. Komen asking if it would be OK for them to honor Laura at the Affiliate Leadership Conference…
November 2009
5 posts
Thanksgiving… →
This is a copy of an email I sent to Thirty Seconds subscribers. I thought it was fitting to share with non-subscribers as well. It’s been a rough year. I don’t even know what to say as we head into…
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I opened up one of my notebooks to a few quick notes I jotted down several months ago. Maybe there’s a thing or 2 you can take from it. [This is not my handwriting…but I duplicated it exactly as I…
Sing It Baby… →
I woke up with a huge hole in my heart this morning. I think I had a dream about Laura last night…but I can’t tell if it actually happened or if I wanted it to have happened. It doesn’t much matter…
Loss, Open Doors, and Stuff… →
[I have a bunch of half finished things sitting in files all over my computer. I just heard about a young woman who died from ovarian cancer. I never met her…don’t know her parents…and probably…
My Tribute… →
This is a tribute to all the people that have helped me and my family get through…and continue to move forward. There are so many. The friends that I see physically…and the ones I’ve made…
Everything Changes… →
[I asked my friend Helen to write a post a few weeks back because she has a gift when it comes to writing. She is deep and sweet at the same time. It’s hard to believe she is so young. She’s an…
October 2009
4 posts
Between Me and God. (And a few thousand readers…) →
[After I wrote this I realized it was sort of a prayer. Hmmm…go figure. I don’t pray anymore…]
Dear God…
I know that you never give us more than we can handle. I know that I can handle…
Today is the Greatest… →
This post is inspired by something that happened to me about week before Laura died. I intend to tell the story in a future post…but for now I’d like to respectfully submit what I learned from that…
Don’t Back Down… →
This is for all the lonely people. (And the scared…and the defeated…and the love starved…and the sad…and the alcoholics…and the drug addicts…and anyone that has been “blessed” with an uphill…
September 2009
5 posts
The Good, The Bad, and The Transformational →
I’m in the sh*t now. It hurts more than I imagined it would…and I know why: because I thought I earned my stripes and was ready to bring lessons down from the mountain…and enlighten and teach and…
The Doing of the Don’t’s… →
Here’s a quote that is so contrary to the “If You Dream It…It Will Be,” chant that it might actually make you mad. I know this because I shared it with some like-minded business buddies years…
Off the Top of My Head… →
A quick thought off the top of my head: Sometimes all we can (should) do is chill…and allow things to unfold the way they will.
That’s some modern-day hippie wisdom right there. I don’t have the…
Calling All Angels… →
Angels are real…and I’m not just saying that because I’m doing the grief thing. I say this to give you hope…even if you don’t think you need any right now.
Saturday…In the Park.
I was trying very…
Join the Crowd… →
[I wrote this a long time ago…I think it was late 2008…never published it…but here it is. I sort of knew something then that I completely understand now. I’m glad I saved it.]
This is…
August 2009
4 posts
Checkin’ in…Today. →
Just checkin’ in with the world here. The aftermath of a death is harder to handle than I expected…but of course we will get through. I’ve been watching the world happen from this spot…and as much…
Life: One Big Beautiful Bitch… →
Glinda the Good Witch from the Wizard of Oz is kind of a bitch when you think about it. Seriously…Dorothy was freaked out…wanted to go home…and Glinda had the power to get her there. So what does…
I’ve MOVED… →
I’ve moved Thirty Seconds to a new place. I hope you continue to follow and read my thoughts. Thanks so much…again…for following.
New Home for Thirty Seconds
Fear…again and again… →
I wrote this in a notebook at the end of May as I sat with Laura in the infusion room. I’ve been noticing how fear influences so much of what we do. I believe that observation…while not…
July 2009
7 posts
Sweeping My Front Step… →
I was a 20-something when I picked up one of my grandfather’s books. I was single and staying in my deceased grandparent’s house until I could find a place to call home. (It was creepy…)…
I’m Not Kidding… →
I saw this picture on Facebook. It was taken by a relative of mine on the west coast. I think it was on a sidewalk. It doesn’t much matter…I think I’m going to have this printed on a Tee. …
Carpe Diem… →
I had a flash-thought tonight as I was standing in the kitchen. One of those quick blips that pops out of nowhere while you’re making a peanut butter sandwich.
No matter what I’ve done…
THIS sums it all up for me… →
It’s the book I wrote for my kids about a year after Laura’s diagnosis. Took me like 10 minutes start to finish. Just got done running…felt really wasted and sad…but I wanted to give them a…
Vote for Media Features →
Here at WordPress.com, we always run the most recent version of the WordPress open source software. In addition, we do custom development so that we can offer features not included in the open…
June Wrap-Up →
Last month we launched the Yahoo! App and 360 importer so you can migrate your content to WordPress.com quickly and easily. And we introduced the SocialVibe widget, which helps you earn…
National Blog Posting Month →
Remember National Novel Writing Month (NaNoWriMo) back in November? You all used the opportunity to take a swing at churning out a 50,000-word novel on your blogs in only one month — some with…
June 2009
7 posts
SocialVibe →
You spend a lot of time creating great content and attracting an audience for your blog. What if you could use that influence to make a positive social impact? Now you can.
We’ve teamed up with…
May Wrap-Up →
Sorry for this being the latest wrap-up ever.
May was a fun month for us. We rolled out a ton of new features: the ability to add YouTube videos and polls to comments, stats in your time…
Submit an Interview… →
The :30 Seconds Project
I learn so much more from REAL people than the so-called celebrities that carefully craft profundities. Therefore, I started a project called “The…
The Past… →
I found this in my BlackBerry. Don’t even remember writing it. I hope I didn’t “lift” it from somewhere…
I acknowledge the past…but I can’t live there, nor would I if I could.
I…
Everyday Wisdom from Everyday People… →
I’m not a professional anything. I’m just a man who was there when his wife was diagnosed with incurable breast cancer.
I’ve learned so many things as a result of living in the cancer…
A Lot of Time These Days…At Night. →
I got this title from Meg M. a friend of mine I met a month or 2 back…on Facebook of all places. I thought it sounded like a Beatles song…and it made me laugh.
We were talking about how…
from “conversations with god”… →
All Apologies
Forgive me. Forgive me for the sporadic writing that comes out these days. My mind is jumbling as I work through the issues that come from this serious, unavoidable situation. …
May 2009
40 posts
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Entrecard People: I’ll continue dropping…and you can do the same here. Sorry…but you’ll have to pass through here to see my new posts.
“Stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone ought to be.”
– Elizabeth Gilbert (via littlemiss) (via quote-book)
the f-bomb… →
Modern Living/Neurotica Series →
There is really no way to describe this. Maybe visit and take a shot…
“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.”
– Robert Frost (via victoryblues)